Wednesday, June 22, 2011

The Big Fail

Hi to all who commented recently, and asked how everything went. Thanks for your support. There was no transfer at all. None of the embryos continued growing past day 4 or so, and none reached blast stage. All that work put in by my sister and I, for nothing.

The RE now thinks the issue might be my husband's sperm. He is going in for labs tomorrow, which I think should have been done after the first cycle was unsuccessful (thanks, Doc!). And then he's on to a specialist the following week.

I am hopeful that whatever the issue is can be fixed, as sperm issues are much easier to fix than egg issues. We are not giving up on this process, but just need a break to figure out what the problem is. I still can't believe this is happening--another period of WAITING. It feels like we are just being bombarded with bad news, upon bad news.

I'll keep updating with information on what's going on with the hubby, and as soon as he's fixed--or we have to use donor sperm, which we've both agreed upon--we will do another cycle, hopefully in the fall.


  1. Ughhh... I'm sorry. How terribly frustrating. And I know the waiting can be so draining. Being forced to handle bad news and patience at the same time is just plain unfair. Thinking of you and your team :) and hoping you get some more understanding soon along with a great big plan.

  2. Oh J'espere, my heart is heavy for you today...

    As you started this cycle, I had such a positive feeling that this was going to be the one where you found success - so your news makes me even more sad.

    One of my favorite nurses once told me that she believes kids pick their parents vs. vice-versa and our kids are out there waiting for us. We have no control over when they might finally decide to reveal their appearance to us. I believe this is true and it's helped me rationalize many dark times.

    Hugs to you today!

  3. Oh no, I'm so sorry.

    Here's hoping you get some answers soon.

  4. Oh no, I didn't want to read this! I'm so sorry.

    It seems so cruel that you had such a promising cache of embryos but that none of them developed.

    I really hope you are doing as well as possible, and that your doctor gets to the heart of the reason why soon, so you can move on with trying again.

    Thinking of you...

  5. I understand your feelings exactly. My transfer got cancelled today due to fluid in my uterus. I HATE all the waiting : (

    Sorry your embryos stopped developing.